Sunday, May 27, 2007
The Significant Other
Just like Blue's song, "Best in Me"- " 'Cos you bring out the best in me/ That no one else can do/ That's why I'm by your side/ That's why I love you"- that's why our other half is supposed to be the better part of ourselves.
Of course, as the other half, you're supposed to bring out the best in your partner. That's how a true relationship works, I guess. I guess from this, I sound rather idealistic, but blame it on those romance stories that I always read. The two leads always seem to make each other see their faults more clearly, and thus make them more willing to change for the better. Similarly, I've heard some of my friends saying that their boyfriends have made them into better people.
We know that we show our ugliest sides to people whom we love. The more we love them and care about them, the uglier the sides we show them. I guess we do that because we feel safe with them, that their love for us won't change because of it. Perhaps during the course of showing our ugly sides, we are allowing that side of ourselves to be changed? Of course, we won't immediately show that sides of ourselves to that important Other. Sometimes, it may just so happen that we see what the Other has done, and it impresses us so much that we might want to emulate him/her so that we may feel even more validated and perhaps, more loved or closer to him/her, because we know that is what we lack, and that particular action is something we know which is right to do. In emulating the behaviour, aren't we changing ourselves for the better?
In times of problems, isn't it that support for the Other is often emphasised, urging the Other not to give up, to persevere? Isn't this also an act of making the Other become a better person? After all, what doesn't kill us, often makes us stronger and wiser the next time round.
The value of the significant other doesn't apply only to partners, of course. Everyone provides us with a chance to better ourselves. I used partners because they are the ones who will be with us for the next rest of our lives after our family, and they will be the ones whom we will spend the most time with for the rest of our lives, and therefore, be the ones with the greatest impact on our lives. Don't you think so?
Wednesday, May 23, 2007
Youtube
Sunday, May 20, 2007
Long long belated post
The day of my birthday, I had a celebration at home with my family again! This time, 'cos it was the 3rd day of CNY, most cake shops weren't open, and of course, my FAVOURITE tiramisu shop- Tiramisutra- wasn't too, which meant we went to other cake shops to look for cakes. We combed the Siglap area, and it was a toss-up between Temptations and Polar. Polar's selection wasn't very exciting, and their chocolate cake selection was... well, not exciting as well. So we went Temptations! The cake was not bad, but not exactly memorable. Prima Deli would have been better, really. BUT: being able to celebrate it with family was really good. Imagine, on my birthday next year, it would just be my parents and I celebrating my birthday. So... my birthday can be said to be the last one that the whole family can celebrate together for a good long while. And what's more significant was that it was my 21st birthday! How good is that? =D
And then, the finale of my birthday. The train set I've been lusting after since I was young!
Tuesday, April 24, 2007
Thursday, April 19, 2007
I am craving for....
Nasi Lemak
Prawn Noodles
I'll tell you more when I think of more... I'm so hungryyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
Friday, April 13, 2007
SMS-ing
Tuesday, April 10, 2007
Thanks!
Merrilyn
Thanks for:
- listening to my complains
- the sms today
- staying back to listen to the presentation
Si Huan
Thanks for:
- driving me to wherever yesterday just so I wouldn't be late for the meeting AGAIN!! Haha... In the end I wasn't, but I had to make them walk all the way from North Spine. Haha... Felt rather bad, but oh well... Hee...
- listening to me go on and on about the presentation
- wanting to know how the presentation went. =)
Si Jia
Haha you're probably not gonna read this, but oh well, since I'm thanking you all, you are included too! =)
Thanks for:
- volunteering to listen to me and giving me comments!!
- yes, and also listening to me go on and on about the presentation... -_-"
Alvin Hong
Thanks for:
- volunteering to come over to help me to rehearse my presentation. Haha... I know, he's prob not gonna read this either, but what the hell... Haha...
JK
Thanks for:
- yep, you guessed it right, listening to me.
- listening again... Hahaha, these few days I think you've been listening to me go round in circles about many many things, thanks for ur patience!! =)
Yep, I guess what's going through your mind now should be, "Why is this Yi Ling so ke qi again?" Well, I think I should let you all know how much your gestures meant to me. They may have been small, but they showed that you cared, and I really appreciate that. =)
And I shall stop being so incredibly soppy and mushy and ke qi. =p
Happy studying!!
Thursday, April 05, 2007
Your Birthdate: February 20 |
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That's rather depressing...
Don't Forget to Remember Me - Carrie Underwood
For momma they flew by
But for me they dragged on and on
We were loading up that Chevy
Both tryin' not to cry
Momma kept on talking
Putting off good-bye
Then she took my hand and said
"Baby don't forget:
Before you hit the highway
You better stop for gas
There's a 50 in the ashtray I
n case you run short on cash
Here's a map and here's a Bible
If you ever lose your way
Just one more thing before you leave
Don't forget to remember me"
This downtown apartment sure makes me miss home
and those bills there on the counter
Keep telling me I'm on my own
And just like every Sunday I called momma up last night
And even when it's not, I tell her everything's all right
Before we hung up I said "Hey momma, don't forget:
to tell my baby sister
I'll see her in the fall
And tell me-maw that I miss her
Yeah, I should give her a call
And make sure you tell Daddy that I'm still his little girl
Yeah I still feel like I'm where I'm supposed to be
Don't forget to remember me"
Tonight I find myself kneeling by the bed to pray
I haven't done this in a while
So I don't know what to say but
Lord, I feel so small sometimes in this big ol' place
I know there are more important things, but
Don't forget to remember me
Don't forget to remember me
Go find this song!!
Sunday, April 01, 2007
I just learnt my groupmate's mother passed away last Thursday night. I'm not close to him, but I can just imagine the shock and the dread and the pain he must have felt when he went back to see his mother. If it was me, I'd probably be numb now. I just can't imagine losing any of my loved ones. I never want to let them go. Even though it's another person's mother, when I think of it happening to me, I just feel this great urge to cry.
I know when a person's time is up, it's up. But it doesn't make letting go any easier. I just want to hold on for as long as I can. I know I said I'd opt for euthanasia if I ever came to the stage where treatment was no use for me. But what some people have told me about my loved ones not wanting me to opt for that have made me consider it deeper. If my loved ones were to opt for it, I'd probably refuse to acknowledge it too. Regardless of how silly it is to hold on to someone who can't respond, I'm sure at the back of their minds is the small small hope that as long as life support is given, there's a chance that he/she will wake up one day. That's why I'm afraid of death. I don't want to leave anyone behind. You could say I'm afraid of the unknown, and I'd agree, but only because I don't know if there's an afterlife. If there is, probably I won't be as afraid, because it means I'll be able to bring my memories with me and still watch them. But if there isn't, would it mean abandoning them? I really don't want to.
Oh man, I'm sounding like a soppy sod now... Oh well, maybe it's just hormones, or the realness of death....
Sunday, March 25, 2007
Wednesday, March 21, 2007
Change the World - Westlife
Since you've gone,
well it seems like everything is wrong,
And deep inside,
I know that i've,lost much more than pride,
Well, happiness is getting further away,
Girl,i miss you more than words can say.
I need a miracle now,
so tell me,
How can i change the world,
Cause i sure can't change your mind,
Where's the miracle i need now,
got to get to you somehow,
Cause i can't change the world.
I can't change the world,
No, i can't change the world,
I can't change the world.
Losing you,
well it's been the hardest thing to do,
So, i close my eyes and tell myself,
that somehow i'll survive.
Well you gave me heaven,
then you took it away,
Girl, i miss you more with each passing day,
i need a miracle now,so tell me...
How can i change the world, (change it)
Cause i sure can't change your mind,
Where's the miracle i need now,
got to get to you somehow.
And baby,
so sad that you have to leave me,
just so you can find yourself,
And it's so sad that you just can't see,
I love you more than life itself.
No, i can't change the world,
How can i change the world,
Cause i sure can't change your mind,
Where's the miracle i need now,
got to get to you somehow,
Cause i can't change the world,
got to get to you somehow,
No, i can't change the world.....
Monday, March 19, 2007
Tomorrow
Song: Tomorrow
The sun'll come out
Tomorrow
Bet your bottom dollar
That tomorrow
There'll be sun!
Just thinkin' about
Tomorrow
Clears away the cobwebs,
And the sorrow
'Til there's none!
When I'm stuck a day
That's gray,
And lonely,
I just stick out my chin
And Grin,
And Say,
Oh!
The sun'll come out
Tomorrow
So ya gotta hang on
'Til tomorrow
Come what may Tomorrow!
Tomorrow!
I love ya Tomorrow!
You're always
A day
A way!
Haha I put up this song cos it sounded so inspiring, so positive. Hope you all liked it. It was played in the documentary on children with Tourette's Syndrome, and I just thought it was so touching the way they find the courage to carry on with life, regardless of the way people look at them cos of their twitches. Some of them even found the inspiration to want to educate the others about the disorder, and I find that really brave. Or maybe cos they are just children. But... for children to have that kind of mentality, I think it shows how matured they are. Haha I just wish I had that kind of courage. This song was actually composed for a play/musical called "Annie", a story about an English orphan girl. I don't know what the story of this play/musical is, but I think it's quite a famous one. I must research on it after my exams. Haha so many things to do.. Hope I manage to accomplish them!!
Monday, March 12, 2007
Is there a light?
My relatives are here over the weekend, and I sooo wish I could stay home to talk to them. Haha, I like them, and the house is really more lively when there are visitors whom you know and feel rather comfortable with. Now that Yi Lun is still in UK, the house is really quiet. Luckily I have assignments and reports to keep me busy so I don't think about it that much. But still... I do wish I could have more time to interact with them, though I'm like one generation younger. Politics is so much fun. But it would be a different story if anyone were to stay in the same place long-term I guess, so perhaps it's the novelty that's making me wanna stay home. That, and my sense of escapism, which is becoming stronger. The need to sleep is getting stronger too, an indication that all I wanna do is to escape and hibernate until the holidays are here.
But the reality of it all is that life still goes on, doesn't it? Doesn't matter if a person dies, or something catastrophic happens to anyone. The people left behind still have to go on and live life, otherwise they'll die. What's the relation between this topic and the paragraph before? I'm not sure too, but I suppose what I was trying to say is that there's really no point in escapism, since if I decide to escape, I'm just making the consequences more inevitable and much worse than they can get than if I can confront them. Easy words to type and say, but difficult to fulfill.
The need to escape from school's getting stronger too. Beginning to dislike checking sms-es and webmail, for fear that something else is gonna come up that has to be attended to immediately, and disrupting the schedule that I planned in my mind. Oh, if any of you reading this is thinking I'm targetting it at you, don't worry, it's not you, it's the circumstances. I know it's inevitable that communication has to go on in order to get the thing at hand done, but I just don't like it. Don't stop the communication, coz it's necessary. Otherwise, the consequences will suck. Haha, I'm just being bitchy old me, so just treat it like I'm just complaining for the sake of complaining k?
Ahhhhh holidays are coming, I'm sooo looking forward to it. Maybe I should consider 1 week of closing myself up at home. Haha, the prospect of watching tv all I want is just soooo tempting!!!
To all of you who are feeling stressed now, Jiayou!! We'll get through this again!!
Tuesday, March 06, 2007
I need...
2) better time management
3)to escape from school!!! and work!!!
haha ok i'm back to my complaining mode again, just humour me lahhhhhhhhh haha...
Monday, March 05, 2007
Relapse
There was a watch spree too! And I was reminded of my love for Fossil watches. Damn but they are such beauties! But one costs at least $135. I saw one that cried out for my money, but alas, I'm a poor church mouse. Gotta scrimp and save first before I can buy you. Even then, perhaps I'd have another new love. Haha. Maybe I should have a new goal for myself- to be a millionaire by a certain age. Probably I'd be more thrifty then.
I gotta find a job during the hols. Definitely. If I don't go on exchange, that is.
Thursday, March 01, 2007
My Handphone and other gripings
On another not much more pleasant note, I am sick of eating. Do you know how much time is wasted on eating? Imagine how much time can be saved if one meal can settle everything for the whole day. If you've read Charlie and the Chocolate Factory, you'd know about the bubblegum which Violet Beauregarde ate. That bubblegum contains 3 meals in one sweet, and after eating that, we don't have to worry about eating for the rest of the day. Argh. Just eating that one sweet, and chewing it while doing work... I can just imagine how much time it will save. I wonder if the bubblegum will make me feel sleepy after eating it. It would be good if it didn't, then I can do so much more. I know it's a stupid thing to wish for something like that, coz we usually treat meals as breaks from work, and without stopping for meals, we are little better than machines which are recharged by bubblegum... But it's really frustrating to feel hungry then spend half an hour to an hour eating and then spending about another hour battling sleepiness. That's up to an hour wasted.
I like my food. I really do. But I can't stand it when I have so many things to do and my stupid stomach goes rumbling away and I start feeling dizzy. Just wish I didn't have to eat.
Sunday, February 25, 2007
Evolution
And just to remind us that we, the "weaker sex" have to bear children next time, periods come with cramps. What is this- adding insult to injury? Argh. Sometimes I wish I could just take out the uterus and just wring all the blood out of it. Do you know how much trouble will be saved if we could do that?
I guess some of you may be a tad embarrassed by this entry. Haha, it's not what I'd usually type on my blog too, but I'm feeling too bitchy to care right now. Maybe I'll take this entry off tomorrow. Or maybe I shan't.
^%^%#$(*&_(*Y&*&^&^%#%@#&^*()_+_)(*&^%$#@!
Friday, February 23, 2007
My current favourite song
Wow if my future boyfriend sings it to me next time I'll be soooo touched. Haha I think the lyrics are quite cute leh, quite nice. The music's not bad too. Of course, if you wanna talk about the voice, maybe there's much left to be desired, but I think the lyrics and music make up for it lar... haha =)
Wednesday, February 14, 2007
Eek!
I dreamt I married a cousin from my father's side! Talk about weird. And to add on to the weirdness, this cousin is not someone whom I talk to often. I only talk to him on Chinese New Year, and the topics talked about are just restricted to "Hello!" and "Come and eat!". Yes, so isn't it weird that I dreamt about him? It's disturbing I tell you, especially when you think about what Freud says about dreams symbolising the unconscious. Argh. But I can assure you, I have no feelings towards that cousin. Funny how that dream came the day before Valentine's Day. Hmm...
Well, my dream aside, this Valentine's Day has been the same as always, quite sad eh? Haha I'm waiting for Elvin Ng to come ask me out! =p Haha an equivalent would do too! =)
Friday, February 09, 2007
Name: Yi Ling
Birth Date: 20/2/86
Current Status: single
Eye Color: black
Hair Color: black with fading highlights. Man I gotta do it again after my hair has rested enough. =p
Righty or Lefty: Righty
Zodiac Sign: Pisces
Layer TWO - On the inside
Your Heritage: chinese
Your Fears: confrontations, embarrassing situations, family members and those that I care about having something happening to them, not getting good honours!! =S
Your Weaknesses: Bleah. Procrastination is my middle name. Hating confrontations.
Your Perfect Pizza: chilli, cheese, seafood. Don't really like Hawaiian. Haha, but will eat it if I have to. =)
Layer THREE - Yesterday, Today, Tomorrow
Your thoughts first waking up: Crap I have to wake up. Why does time pass so fast?
Your Bedtime: 130-2am
Your most missed memory: When I was a child.
Layer FOUR - Your Pick
Pepsi or Coke: Used to be Pepsi, but now Coke. It's less sweet and I like the bite of the gas.
McDonald’s or Burger King: McDonald's! I'm a McDonald's fan! Haha
Adidas or Nike: Adidas. Love the clothes, just no money. Sheesh.
Lipton tea or Nestea: Nestea's Ice Lemon Tea!
Chocolate or vanilla: This is a no-brainer. Chocolate!
Cappuccino or coffee: Haha makes no difference to me. Don't really drink coffee- gives me a headache and makes me feel like I'm on steroids. Eew
Layer FIVE -Do you
Smoke: No and I don't plan to.
Curse: Hee yes...
Layer SIX -In the Past Month
Drank alcohol: Does one sip count?
Gone to the mall: No I haven't but I'm going shopping today! Yay!
Been on stage: Nope
Eaten sushi: No. So sad. I wanna eat Sushi Buffet but no money! Argh.
Dyed your hair: Nope. But maybe during June hols.
Layer SEVEN - Have You Ever?
Played a stripping game: No. Nothing to show lar. And I don't plan to.
Changed who you were to fit in: Yes. I'm a conformist.
Layer EIGHT
Age you’re hoping to be married: ??? See when attached first then I tell you. Haha
Layer NINE - In a Girl/Guy
Best eye colour: Black?
Best hair colour: Black or brown. I don't like guys who dye their hair blonde or lighter. I like good boys. Haha
Short or long hair: Short! Unless they can look like Zaizai!
Layer TEN - What Were You Doing
1 minute ago: Giving out the last questionnaire for the session
1 hour ago: Preparing for the experiment that's going on now
4.5 hours ago: Sleeping lar. Don't be mean. I can't wake up that early.
1 month ago: Still slacking in school.
1 year ago: In school, probably running experiments?
Layer ELEVEN - Finish the sentence
I love: my family, chocolate, sleeping, reading, doing nothing, and the course I'm doing now. Hmm would saying friends (I think you know who you are) be a bit dodgy?
I feel: like I'm procrastinating too much. There's a friggin test next week.
I hate: feeling stupid, mental blocks, not being able to sleep.
I hide:Muahaha. Let me continue hiding it lar, don't lidat!!
Sometimes.I miss: the days when I was a child. And maybe JC days. And....
I need: to stop wasting my time.
Layer TWELVE - Tag 5 people.
Nobody. Do it if you are interested!
Haha I realised that while I was doing this, I was thinking of the various contexts I am usually in. Is this typical Asian behaviour? Tell me!
Wednesday, January 31, 2007
Chocolate Buffet at Swissotel Merchant Court
This is the chocolate fountain they had there. In front of the fountain are a bowl of honeydew and I think pineapple. If you think they are weird, I would agree with you. No strawberries! What a pity. Instead, they had honeydew, water apple (?!?!?!), and pineapple. Are you going "hmmm....". Haha I was too. I thought they might have strawberries and kiwis!
One of the things I was looking forward to during the buffet- hot chocolate made for you on the spot by the chef! Contrary to what you all might think about there only being 3 flavours of chocolates, you'd be pleasantly surprised. On top of dark chocolate, there exists another type of chocolate: strong bitter dark chocolate. Yep, this is for those who don't like their chocolate too sweet. I opted for this, coz I wanted to see how bitter bitter chocolate can get. Well, it wasn't sweet, if you're wondering, but not really chocolatey either, but I enjoyed it. I reckon dark chocolate would have been just nice in terms of chocolatey-ness and sweetness. I don't think I'd try the white chocolate though, never been a fan of it. I didn't try milk chocolate either, I figured it might taste like Milo. =p
Tuesday, January 30, 2007
BLEAH
Maybe I should blog about the chocolate buffet.
Watch this spot.
Yes. I know some of you will tell me you were watching this spot. Good for you. Carry on.
Forget it. I'm going to do it tomorrow.
Monday, January 29, 2007
SHE Concert!!
Special guests Fei Lun Hai (haha Si Wei: Ai dao~ Ai dao~) and Stephanie Sun!! Haha Fei Lun Hai's good looking! And it was an experience to see Stephanie Sun in person! Haha...
Wednesday, January 24, 2007
Friday, January 19, 2007
It's a sad sad life
Yes, so here's an announcement:
Please don't sms me! Email me if there's anything, or you can call me at home if you know my house number. I promise to check my mail more often!!
Ok, I'm out.
Tuesday, January 16, 2007
Foodie Food!!
Well and over the weekend I signed up for the trip to Big Fish Seafood Grill. What wonderful timing it is. At least at that time taste levels were up higher than yesterday's, which meant I could roughly taste, and feel the butteriness of the food. But the real taste of the fish eluded me, which was rather sad, though I think Big Fish can be given a try. The presentation of the food and the taste of the brownies and mashed potatoes have convinced me that their fish should not be too far off the mark, so hopefully I'll be able to make a trip down again when I recover. For those interested in Big Fish, it's at 85 Upper East Coast Road. If you need the contact number, ask me or drop a tag, I'll find it and give you. Haha I'm too lazy to check it now. My wallet's within reach, but I don't feel like reaching out. =p
And then that same night, I went to try the Sarawak Chili Noodles, as recommended by some foodie blogger who was recommended to me by LeRoy, one of the Deli Aprecio Club members. The description sounded good and so tempting- the description of how hot the chili was made me reaaaal tempted to go try it out. But again, I overestimated the recovery of my tastebuds, and was disappointed that I couldn't actually give a proper judgement of the noodles. BUT one thing's for sure, the chili's not very hot. I barely felt the bite. And... the texture of the noodles was rather disappointing, nothing different from other stalls. As for the taste, based on my parents' verdicts, wasn't great either. It made us wonder if we had gone to the wrong stall, but... couldn't be, right? There was a queue! And people around us were eating it happily. Hmmm... Maybe it just didn't suit us. I lost interest in the noodles after awhile, sad to say. Well but if you're looking for value for money noodles, then this stall is the one for you. They give prawns, pork ribs (bah kut), fish cakes and alot of noodles. Rather worth the $3, if you ask me. If you're interested to give the chili mee a try, it's at Golden Mile Food Centre, #01-59 (I think). Or you can visit this website: http://ieatishootipost.blogspot.com/2006/10/chilli-mee-3-gen-sarawak-receipe-golden.html to find out more. Who knows, you might like it! One man's meat is another man's poison, after all. =) If you do try it, tell me!
Ok I've procrastinated long enough... Still haven't finished the first set of Prof Chang's notes. Argh. I wanna sleeppppppppppppppppppppppppp......
Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
Sunday, January 07, 2007
December Trip to Sarawak
Roaming around. On the left is a picture from a hill in Song. We were on our way to the "town" area, known more commonly as pasar (market place). On the right is an oil barge owned by my uncles. It's a Shell station, and supplies oil to boats. Let me introduce my cousins here: (clockwise from left) Alvin, Alan, Me, George, Acalia, Laura.
Playing Heart Attack and Uno. Yes yes, I know most of you have probably not played these games for a long time, but we played this at the request of George and Acalia. And... frankly, it was quite fun. Heart Attack was so noisy that we had to migrate upstairs to play. Even then, the adults claimed that they could still hear us. -_-"
All the cousins slept together for 2 nights, and this was how our sleeping quarters looked:
Entertainment was also provided by George and Acalia:
Notice the red-colour lantern like things hanging from the ceiling near the lights? That's a big catcher. Quite ingenous, really, it's raffia string bundled together, and then torn into strips, then soaked in oil until it becomes rancid. The raffia strings then become sticky, and thus trap any bugs rude enough to intrude in our dinner.
Another IHG Gone...
I, for one, played like crap. Oh, the first set started off good. I managed to receive all the balls, and hardly made any mistakes. But at the end of the second set and the beginning of the third set, my smart brain decided to switch off. There was one ball where I just WATCHED the damn ball land in front of me. It wasn't even a fast ball, and I wasn't fast enough to bend down. It wasn't even an ambiguous ball. It was MY ball. Argh. One point down.
If I were to talk about the mistakes I made, it would just bore you all to death. I just wish I was smart enough, alert enough, mentally and physically strong enough to play. Maybe we might have been able to save the points I lost.
Ah well. IHG is over already, and I guess we'll just have to practise harder for next year's. I do hope I'll be able to play for Hall 6 again, coz the teammates are one of the best teammates I've ever had the pleasure of playing with. Though I hardly talked much to any of them, what I liked about the team was that they accepted that everyone was different, but still treated them the same. There was no hierarchy. Reserves weren't looked down upon, and all players were treated equally. Sure, there would be concentration on the main team or perhaps the important players, but I felt that the others were never made to feel as if they didn't belong there. Mistakes weren't scolded at, but taught, and told patiently. We could have had the best players, but the most politics, if there was elitism. But there was none, and that's what I think makes the most comfortable team to play with, and that's the main reason why I like to play for Hall 6, and why I feel so bad that I caused them to lose the valuable points that we needed.
Ah well, let's just hope I can stay back in Hall 6 again, eh? Hopefully next time I'll really be able to make a difference, and also improve. =)
Wednesday, December 20, 2006
Hiatus etc
I think everyone's born a good person, really, like we are born clean slates, and have to be taught about what goes on in the the world and how to react and cope with it. These reactions and coping strategies may not be the best choices some of the time, and may not seem like behaviour befitting good people, but I think, at the end of the day, these reactions and behaviours are really just the methods that we adopt in order to survive. Some people may find being mean an easier method of getting what they want than being nice, so they just adopt it, and pretty soon, it kinda becomes second nature to be mean.
But another question arises. What makes people adopt the various methods that they adopt? Perhaps it's the environment? But some might also question how some people manage to grow up unaffected by their environments. Genetics? How would you explain some people with good genes to turn out bad? Perhaps, like what the textbook always says, there's a balance between the two. And personally, I agree, but I also think relying only on genetics and the environment seems to mean that the person is really just a product of other factors which he or she has no control over. I don't like to think of people having no control over what they are and who they can be. I think there's gotta be something unique inside everyone, that 3rd elusive factor that decides which types of methods and behaviours we adopt when we confront various situations. And this is where individual differences come in. There's gotta be different types of that something in each person. Genes and the environment are perhaps superficial explanations of everything.
We could look at the world in various ways, and that makes each of us unique. But what makes us able to click with each other, and people who perceive the world in different ways? Well I'm not sure either, but perhaps it's the dominance of the 3rd factor. The 3rd factor could coexist with other types of 3rd factor, which enable some people who seem very different to be actually be similar in some ways. Like how sometimes we feel like we are a mess of contradictory personalities, such as wanting to be alone yet wanting to be with someone but outwardly showing wanting to be alone? The dominant 3rd factor could be wanting to be alone, but it coexists with the factor that likes to be around people. Am I making sense here?
People are interesting, aren't they? And so mysterious that they can be darn irritating.
Thursday, November 23, 2006
Cultural Psych
I do hope tomorrow's paper is not as bad as I am expecting it to be...
And don't even mention the past two papers. I just hope I can get decent grades.
Please remind me not to be so bloody ambitious next time. 5 subjects will do.
Saturday, November 18, 2006
This is a very sweet song! I wish I could have found the original singer's music video with his real voice, but this singer is nice too. Enjoy! Below are the lyrics...
Back when I was a child, before life removed all the innocence
My father would lift me high and dance with my mother and me and then
Spin me around ‘til I fell asleep
Then up the stairs he would carry me
And I knew for sure I was loved
If I could get another chance, another walk, another dance with him
I’d play a song that would never, ever end
How I’d love, love, love
To dance with my father again
When I and my mother would disagree
To get my way, I would run from her to him
He’d make me laugh just to comfort me
Then finally make me do just what my mama said
Later that night when I was asleep
He left a dollar under my sheet
Never dreamed that he would be gone from me
If I could steal one final glance, one final step, one final dance with him
I’d play a song that would never, ever end
‘Cause I’d love, love, love
To dance with my father again
Sometimes I’d listen outside her door
And I’d hear how my mother cried for him
I pray for her even more than me
I pray for her even more than me
I know I’m praying for much too much
But could you send back the only man she loved
I know you don’t do it usually
But dear Lord she’s dying
To dance with my father again
Every night I fall asleep and this is all I ever dream
Wednesday, November 15, 2006
Look what my Dog Did
Would you believe an dog that looks like this:

would make my things look like this:

My Post-its!!!
and this:

My eraser!!!
I wanna slap him, I really do! I just dropped my post-its and my eraser for a little while and the next time I looked, they were like that. Do you know how hard I tried to preserve the paper around my eraser and keep my eraser nice and clean?! And the silly boy has to spoil my efforts. Even my Post-its were not spared... From a nice and clean state, they became like.... like... RUBBISH!! Now both of my things have his saliva! Eau de Schnoozee. Does it have a nice ring to it? Oh man... Luckily the smell has faded somewhat from the eraser, and... I don;t think I wanna use the post-its anymore... What a pity. The size of the Post-its was PERFECT for note-taking...
Argh. But what can I do? It's like having a naughty child. We can't abandon our children even if they are mischievous can we? I can't bear to abandon him either. Haha!!
The Imp of the Perverse
Ever heard the story of The Imp of the Perverse by Edgar Allan Poe? It's very Freudian (Si Huan, you'll probably like it), talking about the perverseness in people, like how we would purposely do something to get ourselves into trouble when we know we can actually keep away from it by taking preventive measures. It's kinda like the death instinct Freud talked about, isn't it? Here's a paragraph from the story:
We stand upon the brink of a precipice. We peer into the abyss – we grow sick and dizzy. Our first impulse is to shrink from the danger. Unaccountably we remain. By slow degrees our sickness, and dizziness, and horror, become merged in a cloud of unnameable feeling. By gradations, still more imperceptible, this cloud assumes shape, as did the vapor from the bottle out of which arose the genius in the Arabian Nights. But out of this our cloud upon the precipice's edge, there grows into palpability, a shape, far more terrible than any genius, or any demon of a tale, and yet it is but a thought, although a fearful one, and one which chills the very marrow of our bones with the fierceness of the delight of its horror. It is merely the idea of what would be our sensations during the sweeping precipitancy of a fall from such a height. And this fall – this rushing annihilation – for the very reason that it involves that one most ghastly and loathsome of all the most ghastly and loathsome images of death and suffering which have ever presented themselves to our imagination – for this very cause do we now the most vividly desire it. And because our reason violently deters us from the brink, therefore, do we the more impetuously approach it. There is no passion in nature so demoniacally impatient, as that of him, who shuddering upon the edge of a precipice, thus meditates a plunge. To indulge for a moment, in any attempt at thought, is to be inevitably lost; for reflection but urges us to forbear, and therefore it is, I say, that we cannot. If there be no friendly arm to check us, or if we fail in a sudden effort to prostrate ourselves backward from the abyss, we plunge, and are destroyed.
Examine these and similar actions as we will, we shall find them resulting solely from the spirit of the Perverse. We perpetrate them merely because we feel that we should not. Beyond or behind this, there is no intelligible principle. And we might, indeed, deem this perverseness a direct instigation of the Arch-Fiend, were it not occasionally known to operate in furtherance of good.
Isn't this like how we always go after the forbidden fruit? We know we should not go after it, but we still do, just to know what it's like. We can never be content that what we have is good. There must often, if not always, be something done to spoil the peace and goodness of what we have.
Defensive pessimism, I think, is the opposite of perverseness. What is defensive pessimism? Well it's an action taken by a defensive pessimist. OK, I know this sounds very duh and doesn't explain everything; I shall attempt to explain it further. A defensive pessimist is someone who anticipates failure, and thus does everything in his/her power to prepare to make whatever he/she is doing to make it a success. The thing is, all the while the defensive pessimist is preparing against the failure, he/she is always convinced that the project is doomed to failure. This is like preparing for disappointment. Don't you agree that the concepts of defensive pessimism and perverseness are like opposites? One is doing everything you can to prevent it, while thinking that the whole thing will be a failure, whereas the other is doing everything you can to get yourself into trouble, all the while convinced that if you were to keep quiet about it, everything will be fine.
You know what? I think the fact that life is full of ups and downs is caused by human's perverseness. Of course, it's hard to accept that we are perverted in the sense that we like to cause our own downfall, but think about it: why is it that quite a large number of high-flyers declare themselves bankrupt when they seemingly have it all? Why do some educated people turn to smoking when it's widely known that smoking causes lung cancer and other horrible consequences?
Hehe I welcome your rebuttals- there are lots of loopholes in this argument, and I admit, it's rather one-sided to state this argument like that. Haha, but I won't promise that I won't agree with you. So come on, share your views! Ahh... but don't sue me... =)
Tuesday, November 14, 2006
When I'm 64
When I get older losing my hair,
Many years from now.
Will you still be sending me a valentine
Birthday greetings bottle of wine.
If I'd been out till quarter to three
Would you lock the door,
Will you still need me, will you still feed me,
When I'm sixty-four.
You'll be older too,
And if you say the word, I could stay with you.
I could be handy, mending a fuse
When your lights have gone.
You can knit a sweater by the fireside
Sunday mornings go for a ride,
Doing the garden, digging the weeds,
Who could ask for more.
Will you still need me, will you still feed me,
When I'm sixty-four.
Every summer we can rent a cottage,
In the Isle of Wight, if it's not too dear
We shall scrimp and save
Grandchildren on your knee
Vera ,Chuck & Dave
Send me a postcard, drop me a line,
Stating point of view
Indicate precisely what you mean to say
Yours sincerely, wasting away
Give me your answer, fill in a form
Mine for evermore
Will you still need me, will you still feed me,
When I'm sixty-four.
Sunday, November 12, 2006
An Amusing Analogy
Imagine your exams have started, and you just passed one stressful week of exams. The next week is much more relaxed, coz you've already revised all that you had to revise in the first week. However, there's still that dilemma within you- you badly want to relax because you were under SOOOO much stress the last week, but you know that you'd never forgive yourself if you relaxed and didn't study and the next week's exams are difficult. You know that heart very itchy feeling?
This is a bit like when you need to answer the small call of nature very very badly. However, while you are answering halfway, you find that you can't go all the way. Now, isn't this feeling very painful? You're so near to the goal, but... you can't go all the way!
Hope you enjoyed it! =)
Saturday, November 11, 2006
Happy Pepero Day!

It's a packet of 4 peperos!
Why did I receive this?
Well, according to Wikipedia and Camella, Pepero or Pocky Day (depending on which country you are from), is day in South Korea similar to Valentine's Day. It is named after the Korean snack Pepero and held on November 11 (today), since the date "11/11" resemble four sticks of Pepero. Or, if you're from Japan, it's Pocky Day, since the equivalent of Pepero is Pocky. This day is celebrated mostly by young people and couples, who exchange Pepero sticks, other candies, and romantic gifts.
According to the story, Pepero Day was started in 1994 by students at a girls' middle school in Busan, where they exchanged Pepero sticks as gifts to wish one another to grow "as tall and slender as a Pepero" (Pepero means "thin like a stick"). However, it is more likely it was initiated by Lotte, the company which produces Pepero.
While in most countries of the world, November 11th is a day of remembrance (since it signaled the end of World War I), in Korea, Japan, Vietnam (according to Camella) and Philippines (according to Mira), it is a day of romanceMany students are truant on this day to celebrate with their friends.
In Japan, a similar Pocky Day was held on November 11 in 1999, which was the 11th year of the Heisei era. The date, 11/11 of the 11th year, resembled 6 sticks of Pocky. According to Korean sources this day was based on the Pepero Day.
From what I heard, some people actually go to the trouble to buy plain pocky sticks (think Yan Yan without the cream) and then dip it into their own chocolate and then decorate it with the colourful rice candy. But generally, I think the trend is buying Pepero or Pocky and then dividing them into groups of 4 or 6, then wrapping them in nice bags or paper.
Camella was real sweet to think to give us a packet! =D
Yep, and now you know that there's a Pepero Day! Cheers to an increase in general knowledge! =p
Thursday, November 09, 2006
Careless Whisper
Time can never mend
The careless whispers of a good friend
To the heart and mindIgnorance is kind
There's no comfort in the truth
Pain is all you find
Should have known better, yeah
I feel so unsure
As I take your hand
And lead you to the dance floor
As the music dies
Something in your eyes
Calls to mind a silver screen
And all its sad goodbyes
I'm never gonna dance again
Guilty feet have got no rhythm
Though it's easy to pretend
I know you're not a fool
I should have known better than to cheat a friend
And waste a chance that I've been given
So I'm never gonna dance again
The way I danced with you
Time can never mend
The careless whispers of a good friend
To the heart and mind
Ignorance is kind
There's no comfort in the truth
Pain is all you find
I'm never gonna dance again
Guilty feet have got no rhyhthm
Though it's easy to pretend
I know you're not a foolI should have known better than to cheat a friend
(Should have known better, yeah)
And waste a chance that I've been given
So I'm never gonna dance again
The way I danced with you
(Never without you)
Tonight the music seems so loud
I wish that we could lose this crowd
Maybe it's better this way
We'd hurt eachother with the things we want to say
We could have been so good together
We could have lived this dance forever
But now who's gonna dance with me
Please stay
And I'm never gonna dance again
Guilty feet have got no rhythm
Though it's easy to pretend
I know you're not a fool
I should have known better than to cheat a friend
And waste a chance that I've been given
So I'm never gonna dance again
The way I danced with you
Now that you're gone
Now that you're gone
Now that you're gone
Was what I did so wrong
So wrong that you had to leave me alone
- George Michael
Wednesday, November 08, 2006
On a lighter note....

Hehe this is actually sold by an Australian lingerie shop. You can view it here: http://www.caryn.com.au/index.htm Naughty naughty design!! Haha!!
And I know just who would be interested in this. Unfortunately, though I was tempted to order one online for you, it costs AUD60, which is a whopping SGD$71.9984. No way am I gonna spend that much man... Haha maybe on your 21st birthday, then I'll order it for you. Or you could ask that special someone to do it? ;)
Yep, I must admit, it's quite creative, but.... a li'l too explicit, don't you think?
Motivation!!
I need to find the motivation to concentrate!!!!!





